So I’m writing this book on dating with cancer. And while some people are super on board, some people think you shouldn’t date with cancer (the horror!). I’ve been listing reasons why not only do I think people should (if they want to) date with cancer, but why cancer will actually improve your dating life. No seriously.

For example, you know that anxiety you feel on a first date? Will they like me? What should I wear? Or the nervousness stressing over a message on a dating site? What should I say? Are we a match?

Also – you know that nervousness you feel when you go for a PET scan to see if your tumors went away or got bigger? Or the anxiety of walking in for your second, third, fourth (or fifth) round of chemo when you KNOW how it will make you puke and almost lose your mind?

Well let me tell you – the nerves of dealing with cancer, and the bravery you develop in the face of it is way way way more intense than anything you need for dating.

If this person doesn’t like me? Fuck it. I have cancer, what do I care about this stranger.

Here’s a great article that points at that. One of my favorite quotes from the author Suleika Jaquad:

After two years of nonstop chemotherapy and a bone marrow transplant, I realized that as a cancer patient, I had experienced my share of real stress and pressure, and I had learned how to confront it and cope with it.