I promise just because I got diagnosed with cancer all my posts won’t suddenly become morbid – I’m still planning to talk PLENTY about how to get naughty, but I’m going to SOMETIMES talk about it and now is one of those times – but then I’m also going to talk about OTHER things.

I’m currently in upstate New York at an amazing conference called Living Well With Cancer. It’s being put on by the amazing Kris Carr – director and star of the documentary Crazy Sexy Cancer. It’s worth googling an image of her because if anyone is an example of how to be a totally hot cancer babe it’s her. I’m definitely modeling a lot of my philosophy and plan of attack from this woman.

When you are tackling big issues – whether it’s cancer, the frustration of a dating life that is chronically unfulfilling, financial overwhelm, or any other giant life experience it makes all the world of difference to learn about it. Hiring a coach is SO HELPFUL. Find experts to advise you. I have a business coach and fitness coaches, and an interior design coach to help me make my space beautiful, and now I have a cancer coach. And you don’t have to spend a lot of money for these coaches. Read their books and websites, set up strategic consultations to help boost you over a difficult hump, get creative and see if you can trade time for time (when I was younger I did office work for an acupuncturist in exchange for free treatments – worked out well for both of us). Don’t try to figure it all out on your own, you will grow so much faster with a coach!

Well I’m a dating coach and I can help you zoom ahead with dating, romance and sex. A client of mine had a sexy woman message him on OkCupid – before we worked together he had gone 9 months without receiving a message from a woman. Within 30 minutes of chatting he had her number and plans for a date 3 days later. They went out last night and she is apparently a very good kisser. I asked him what had changed since we worked together – he told me he is more confident and because of that can focus on her and not on the nonsense in his own head (you know the little voice that never says anything nice to you?) And because he is more confident he didn’t worry about impressing her. He said – “I’m awesome and either we are compatible and we’ll work out, or we won’t. It doesn’t mean anything about me or my self worth, and there are lots of other women out there.”

Can you imagine feeling that way about dating? How would that be for you? What kinds of things would you do that you aren’t doing now?

I’m off for the rest of my workshop today – I can’t believe how much I’m learning in just a weekend! The tools and tips are worth so much more than the cost, I can’t even believe it. After this weekend I’ll get to spend a couple days in New York City! Is there anything I absolutely shouldn’t miss? Any fabulous singles spots I should make sure to check out? If you know New York, make sure you email me and give me the inside scoop on how to waste a couple days there.

Hope you are all well, and look for more exciting updates soon!