I’m starting a new section to answer reader questions. Feel free to email me with any sex or dating questions you have and I’ll try to answer as many as I can. Here’s part of a message from a reader. I’m including his specific question, but I get a fair number of messages like this, so whether or not this is your specific question – I’m talking to you.

When I was with my ex, I happened to be around when one of her girlfriends was talking about having been grossed out by an uncut penis on a partner. My ex agreed with her, and even said that cut penises were also prettier than uncut ones. =/ Some time later, we ended up breaking up for non-sex-related reasons, but what those girls said has been a bit of a concern for me.

I know that circumcision is the more common thing here in the U.S., but is it such a common thing for women to prefer cut penises over uncut ones? Because I am uncircumcised myself; as I get erect, the foreskin retracts about halfway down the head, and it can glide back and forth across the penis when handled, as I assume uncut penises normally do, but I heard that many girls are grossed out by that? =/ Is there anything I can do for my partners, besides keeping myself clean down there (as all guys should anyway lol)?

So the thing is – there’s nothing wrong with your body. Ok well, I guess I should say there may be things a medical doctor would find wrong with your body. And if anything itches, burns, hurts, aches, stings, pokes, goes numb, or starts waving around erratically without your control, there is almost probably definitely something wrong with your body. Please stop reading and go to the hospital now.

But aside from actual real medical issues, there is nothing wrong with your body. I get a lot of reader emails asking me if X is normal. Men want to know if their penis length is normal. Or their girth. Or the amount of cum they produce. Or whether it’s ok that they are circumcised, or not. Women want to know about pubic hair, labia size and shape, discharge amount and smell. Everyone is worried about how or when or if they orgasm. Many people think something should be bigger, smaller, darker, lighter, more sensitive, less sensitive….

The answer is – your body is fine. We get sold a bill of goods. We are told we should be something we aren’t. But the thing is, you’ve got what you’ve got. You can’t grow taller, or make your dick bigger. Aside from working out and cutting your hair, this is pretty much what you are working with. And it’s fine. Short guys get laid all the time. So do women who weigh more than 105 pounds. And hairy guys and gals get laid all the time. You’re fine.

Now – do some other people have weird hang ups about bodies? Yep. Absolutely. Might those people be people you sleep with (or don’t sleep with)? Yes, of course. But if you try to be THE thing that everyone wants all the time, you will go insane. Your happiness cannot depend on other people’s thoughts of you.

So sure, some women don’t like foreskin. But some women prefer it. And some women don’t care one way or the other. Some men don’t like pubic hair, but some guys dig it. Some women love clean shaven guys, some like guys with big 70′s style porn staches. How are you going to please all those people?

It is a red herring to think those are the things that make you attractive. What’s really hot is someone who is confident in their skin (whatever and wherever that skin is). Don’t try not to offend anyone or to not gross them out. Be unreasonably sexy just how you are, and fuck em if they can’t take a joke.

After all, haters gonna hate.